feeling like a fraud?

why helping others when you still need help isn't being an imposter, it's the bravest thing you can do.

some days, I look around and wonder who the heck am I to be offering help and guidance to others, when my life can be so messy sometimes?

I’m in court with my ex.

my kids fight quite a bit and it drives me nuts.

my partner and I both have big dreams that we have yet to fulfill and step into.

and I don’t have the physical funds to live the adventurous, free-spirited lifestyle that I desire at this point.

but what I realize and keep coming back to is … I’m not meant to be some perfectly “healed” guru floating above everyone else. I’m meant to be just what I am RIGHT NOW … which is a real woman walking the path too. it’s the true the beauty of what I do, I suppose — and it’s why my clients connect so deeply with me — because I’m in it and I’ve been in it with them.

I’m not preaching from the mountaintop, I’m walking beside them through the valley.

and there are glimpses of my mountaintop, then life happens and brings me back to the dark valley … but thankfully what I have learned does not keep me down for long. it’s what we do with the circumstances we are given that makes all the difference, and how we react.

some days I feel like I should “wait” until things are more calm, and I’m at the end of this chapter. yet God keeps pulling me towards sharing my message, and lifting others out of the darkness. so I obey. even when I seemingly keep falling on my face.

even in the dark, even when there are only flickers that light the way.

I fully believe you can help others even as you’re healing, and it’s what many others out here do for me as well. when we do this, we show what it looks like to choose faith, growth, and alignment even when it’s not easy. because many times it WON’T BE EASY!

what I’m feeling, and I know I’m not alone in, doesn’t make me a fraud. it makes me human.

the truth is, most people don’t need someone who’s “arrived.”
they need someone who understands the messy middle.
someone who can say, “hey, I know what this feels like — and here’s what helps me keep going.”

so if you’re in this place too,

wondering why you are being so called to create, to write, to talk, to arrange beautiful flowers, to pull others out of the darkness in whatever way you do, DO IT.

the very reason God put this urge in your heart is the reason you need to.

here’s where we quit letting our egos and our fears get in the way, we quit caring what others will think (especially if we do not want their lives!), and we get obedient.

one day at a time, one message at a time, one connection at a time.

I’m not perfect.

and the ones who need you, don’t need you to be perfect either.

they need you to be YOU, and share your special gifts with the world, because THAT is what helps others do the same and not feel so alone.